In today's society, the marriage of young people has become a social phenomenon of concern for many people, after all. Too many people start to get married late and have children late, or even become infertile without marriage.
In addition to marriage difficulties, divorce rates are also rising. The divorce rate in the U.S. is 2.4 percent, while in Russia it is 73 percent.Although China’s numbers are not high, it also hides a crisis.
What is the reason behind this?What is the divorce rate in China?
Money, is it glue or scissors?
In the United States, the divorce rate in 2022 was 2.4%. while in Russia, this figure rose to a staggering 73%, China’s “disconnection rate” is also 58 percent.
Want a divorce in America? Consider your wallet first.
Divorce lawsuits last for an average year, It is common to spend ten or twenty thousand dollarsThis high “break-up fee” calms up many impulsive couples.
In California, there is a provision. After applying for divorce, you must be separated for half a year.The aim is to make both couples feel whether the post-marriage life adapts.
This threshold of time and money has turned divorce into one. Considerable financial decisions are needed.
and even carry. “Regularly locked”The divorce insurance. You have to pay for four consecutive years to get a claim,This is simply putting an economic lock on marriage.
But in China and Russia, money plays the opposite role, more like a knife.
In China, there are two mountains on the head of a couple: Loans and children.Many families spend more than half of their monthly income on mortgage payments, Coupled with the average childcare cost of up to 0 thousand,The Beijing-Shanghai region easily exceeded one million.
Each day, when the two women are consuming salt, Deep communication less than 20 minutes.Emotions are naturally wiped out.
The root causes of many divorces, Talking is money.
The situation is similar in Russia, High inflation, low wages,Along with official data. A quarter of men have alcohol abuse,The vulnerability of family finances is obvious.
Russia has tried to save marriages by economic means. They raised the divorce fee from 650 rubles per breath to 5,000 rubles.It's up almost sevenfold.
The result is very little. This money is not painful for those who are determined to go.Instead, it may scare some young people to simply not get married.
Not for my family, but for myself.
Globally, there is a growing feeling that marriage should not be tolerated for the sake of family or children, More for their own happiness.
However, this wave has sparked waves of different shapes in different countries.
Americans have chosen a "pre-filter" model. They no longer blindly pursue the "romantic marriage" in movies, Instead, it is more important to value the reliable “accompanying marriage” in reality.
Living together before marriage is very common here. It is not a taboo, but a rational "trial marriage".
by living together, Check in advance whether each other's living habits and consumption concepts are in tune,Eliminate a large number of unstable factors before marriage.
This approach, coupled with the high acceptance of divorce in society, makes the goals of people who enter into marriage clearer and the foundations stronger.
The changes in China are reflected in a kind of awakening of women. With the general improvement of women's education level and economic ability, Their tolerance in marriage is declining sharply.
In the past, the traditional concept of "home harmony and prosperity" made many women endure silently The “handshake” style of the husband and the bitterness of the “dead-in-law parenting.”
But now, they don't want to endure it anymore. They pay more attention to their personal feelings and the quality of their marriage.
Data shows that the average period from marriage to divorce for couples in China has From the past 9.4 years, it has been shortened to the current 3.8 years.
Behind this is the determination of countless women to “live for themselves.”
Russia fell into one. “Impulsive and irresponsible.”The vicious cycle, the Russian character is luxurious, it is easy to "marry" in love, but after marriage generally lacks a sense of responsibility.
Domestic violence caused by alcohol.The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, caused by generations crammed into small spaces, has become the norm in many families.
When the problem arises, They tend to end relationships hastilyNot to settle calmly.
Early marriages are severe when married before the age of 30. The divorce rate is much higher than late marriages.
This wave of "for yourself" has even swept across the elderly. In the United States, "silver-haired divorce" has become a trend.
As children grow up and family responsibilities are reduced, Some older people choose to separate in their later years,To pursue their own happiness, Schwarzenegger and Gaulle’s example is the best footprint.
This shows that the pursuit of personal happiness is throughout life.
How useful is the "reins" of the country?
In the face of shaking marriages, governments have also taken their hands to try to heat up the overheated divorce wave with the system's "rope". However, the effects of these interventions are different.
Russia has the fastest divorce procedure in the world. Implement "no-fault divorce",Both parties have no children, no property disputes. It can be completed within 21 days.
This extreme convenience, to many people, is almost a contempt for marriage.
The United States has gone to the other extreme, Its divorce process is complex, long and expensive.It constitutes a solid barrier that actually plays the role of compulsory calm.
Yes, but you have to have enough money and patience to fight a lasting battle.
China has adopted a mid-range plan. "30-day cooling-off period for divorce".
From the data, this policy seems to be very effective. It is said that 58% of divorce petitions nationwide have been withdrawn as a result,Many impulsive decisions were avoided.
But there are always two sides to a coin, and this cooling-off period has also exposed problems in practice.
For some people, these 30 days are not for calm reflection, but Transfer of property and preparation for trial.The “war preparation period.”
For those who For those who suffer from domestic violence,This is a day-to-day pain.
Once again, we have seen that simple administrative intervention often treats the symptoms but not the root cause. Russia's failure to increase divorce fees and the controversy caused by China's "cooling-off period" both illustrate this point.
In contrast, some "soft interventions" may be a more constructive direction.
example, The U.S. government has invested 0 million to implement the "Healthy Marriage" program,Provide various marriage consultancy services.
and in China, Women’s associations and communities around the world have also been offering similar marriage mediation and counseling.
This kind of supportive and service help focuses on solving the fundamental problems between couples and For example, improving the daily communication of less than 20 minutes may be much more effective than simply setting obstacles.
conclusion
Therefore, the divorce rate cannot simply be used as a criterion for judging the quality of a society.
The marriage picture of China, the United States and Russia is actually the result of the joint shaping of the three forces of economy, culture and system. There is no perfect pattern for all four seas.
The low divorce rate in the United States, partly based on the high exit costs and cautious entry threshold, while China and Russia’s stunning “difference ratio” is deeply revealed. The family, the most basic unit, is under tremendous pressure.
The key to the future may not lie in how to reduce the divorce rate at all costs, but whether we can build a more resilient social support system.
At the same time, It must also respect every adult,After careful consideration, make choices for your life.
Source of information:
Russia to increase divorce fees seven times, Russian media: Russia may want to reduce divorce rates through this move
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