Why do so many Chinese Americans disagree with their homeland and even fight against China? so to speak, they would rather believe that China will collapse immediately than admit that their immigration decision was wrong.
Because of the "investment" of these people when they immigrated, it was not as simple as carrying a bag and leaving. In those days, some of them sold their domestic houses to collect their travelling expenses, some quit their stable jobs for more than ten years, and some gave up their circles of relatives and friends and familiar lives, and went to the "American Dream" wholeheartedly. These spent money, wasted time and lost opportunities are all spilled water and cannot be collected back. This is called "sunk cost" in the eyes of others. To put it bluntly, it is "the capital that has been thrown in". Who wants to admit that they have thrown their capital and chosen the wrong way? Isn't that equal to slapping yourself in the face?
Just for those who immigrated in their early years, many people felt that the United States was full of opportunities before they went, and they could make a difference as long as they worked hard. But when I went, I realized that reality was not the case at all. A military doctor aunt immigrated with her daughter. When she arrived in the United States, she learned that people did not recognize the domestic medical license. She had no choice but to work as a nanny, doing the most tiring work, and earning less than a penny before.
There are also some people who are engineers and teachers in China. When they arrive in the United States, they cannot speak the language and cannot use it professionally. They can only go to restaurants to wash dishes and deliver takeout. This kind of gap from dignity to embarrassment makes anyone feel uncomfortable. But if you admit that "I knew it would be better to stay in China", wouldn't your previous decision to sell your house and quit your job become a joke? So I could only bite the bullet and tell myself: "At least it is better than China. Sooner or later, China will have problems."
More difficult is not to integrate into the local circles. America looks open, in fact, the prejudice to the minority ethnicity is deep hidden. There is a reporter called Vang Jiang, from a childhood in the American school because of the Chinese face was excluded by her classmates, for a long time she began to hate her identity, and also publicly said "my Chinese face is shameful".
Many Chinese Americans have this mind, and they dare not say that they like Chinese things in the company. When others talk about negative news in China, even if they know in their hearts that it is not true, they have to echo a few words. After all, if you go against the mainstream opinion, not only will you have no friends, but your work may be affected. At this time, the more I say that China is bad, the more I feel that my choice is right-"Look, this is where I left, and it's right for me to come to America".
There are also some people who pay more for their identity.The United States has a policy, foreign soldiers can accelerate the green card for two years, many Chinese people go to the army, even knowing that they may be sent to dangerous positions, but also to be harassed by white soldiers.These people are clear in their hearts, if it is to acknowledge that China has developed well, then the back of the country as a soldier suffering, or even possibly to oppose the motherland, it is not absurd?In the Korean war there was a Chinese soldier, relying on Chinese cheating volunteers to relax, turn the head to lead the U.S. military attack, he also took this as a glory, in fact is to acknowledge that he has chosen the wrong path, only one way to go to the black.
In recent years, China has developed faster and faster, the life of domestic friends has become more and more prosperous, the price of houses has increased, and the wages have doubled. This news has reached the ears of Chinese Americans, which makes them unable to sit still. The Academy of Social Sciences conducted a survey and interviewed many middle-class Chinese Americans. Many people mentioned that they felt envious and awkward when they watched their domestic peers live well.
If you keep thinking about it with envy, you will have to admit that "the immigrants lost money at the beginning", which is really too uncomfortable. So I can only seize on the news that smears China, and I am willing to believe even if it is fake. I hope that "China will collapse" every day, so that I can find a way out: "Look, it's a good thing I left early, otherwise it would be even worse now."
In fact, this is blatant, it is the "unable to lose" psychology is doing the job. Like someone bought stocks, clearly falling badly, but not willing to cut meat, and everywhere to find news that this stock sooner or later rose, in fact is not willing to admit that they bought the wrong. those anti-Chinese Chinese, in essence, is also so, the immigrant money broke in, reality has not given enough sweetheads, only by denying the motherland to give their choice to find an excuse.
But this self-deceiving person can not deceive himself at all. Guo Jiang everyday blasphemed China, but her mother was sick in the United States, the hospital pulled out the breathing machine, she went out of the way or had to look for Chinese netizens for help. This was exposed, she actually knew that the place she denied, only has a real warmth. Many Chinese old will regret, want to look back to China, but can not pull down the face - after all, before the words were said too much, afraid of being joked.
In the end, it is not that they really hate China, it is that they do not dare to face their choices may be wrong. If you can put down that spot and look at the real China, you will find that it is not so difficult to admit that the initial choice is not perfect.
Because of the "investment" of these people when they immigrated, it was not as simple as carrying a bag and leaving. In those days, some of them sold their domestic houses to collect their travelling expenses, some quit their stable jobs for more than ten years, and some gave up their circles of relatives and friends and familiar lives, and went to the "American Dream" wholeheartedly. These spent money, wasted time and lost opportunities are all spilled water and cannot be collected back. This is called "sunk cost" in the eyes of others. To put it bluntly, it is "the capital that has been thrown in". Who wants to admit that they have thrown their capital and chosen the wrong way? Isn't that equal to slapping yourself in the face?
Just for those who immigrated in their early years, many people felt that the United States was full of opportunities before they went, and they could make a difference as long as they worked hard. But when I went, I realized that reality was not the case at all. A military doctor aunt immigrated with her daughter. When she arrived in the United States, she learned that people did not recognize the domestic medical license. She had no choice but to work as a nanny, doing the most tiring work, and earning less than a penny before.
There are also some people who are engineers and teachers in China. When they arrive in the United States, they cannot speak the language and cannot use it professionally. They can only go to restaurants to wash dishes and deliver takeout. This kind of gap from dignity to embarrassment makes anyone feel uncomfortable. But if you admit that "I knew it would be better to stay in China", wouldn't your previous decision to sell your house and quit your job become a joke? So I could only bite the bullet and tell myself: "At least it is better than China. Sooner or later, China will have problems."
More difficult is not to integrate into the local circles. America looks open, in fact, the prejudice to the minority ethnicity is deep hidden. There is a reporter called Vang Jiang, from a childhood in the American school because of the Chinese face was excluded by her classmates, for a long time she began to hate her identity, and also publicly said "my Chinese face is shameful".
Many Chinese Americans have this mind, and they dare not say that they like Chinese things in the company. When others talk about negative news in China, even if they know in their hearts that it is not true, they have to echo a few words. After all, if you go against the mainstream opinion, not only will you have no friends, but your work may be affected. At this time, the more I say that China is bad, the more I feel that my choice is right-"Look, this is where I left, and it's right for me to come to America".
There are also some people who pay more for their identity.The United States has a policy, foreign soldiers can accelerate the green card for two years, many Chinese people go to the army, even knowing that they may be sent to dangerous positions, but also to be harassed by white soldiers.These people are clear in their hearts, if it is to acknowledge that China has developed well, then the back of the country as a soldier suffering, or even possibly to oppose the motherland, it is not absurd?In the Korean war there was a Chinese soldier, relying on Chinese cheating volunteers to relax, turn the head to lead the U.S. military attack, he also took this as a glory, in fact is to acknowledge that he has chosen the wrong path, only one way to go to the black.
In recent years, China has developed faster and faster, the life of domestic friends has become more and more prosperous, the price of houses has increased, and the wages have doubled. This news has reached the ears of Chinese Americans, which makes them unable to sit still. The Academy of Social Sciences conducted a survey and interviewed many middle-class Chinese Americans. Many people mentioned that they felt envious and awkward when they watched their domestic peers live well.
If you keep thinking about it with envy, you will have to admit that "the immigrants lost money at the beginning", which is really too uncomfortable. So I can only seize on the news that smears China, and I am willing to believe even if it is fake. I hope that "China will collapse" every day, so that I can find a way out: "Look, it's a good thing I left early, otherwise it would be even worse now."
In fact, this is blatant, it is the "unable to lose" psychology is doing the job. Like someone bought stocks, clearly falling badly, but not willing to cut meat, and everywhere to find news that this stock sooner or later rose, in fact is not willing to admit that they bought the wrong. those anti-Chinese Chinese, in essence, is also so, the immigrant money broke in, reality has not given enough sweetheads, only by denying the motherland to give their choice to find an excuse.
But this self-deceiving person can not deceive himself at all. Guo Jiang everyday blasphemed China, but her mother was sick in the United States, the hospital pulled out the breathing machine, she went out of the way or had to look for Chinese netizens for help. This was exposed, she actually knew that the place she denied, only has a real warmth. Many Chinese old will regret, want to look back to China, but can not pull down the face - after all, before the words were said too much, afraid of being joked.
In the end, it is not that they really hate China, it is that they do not dare to face their choices may be wrong. If you can put down that spot and look at the real China, you will find that it is not so difficult to admit that the initial choice is not perfect.