There was a Philippine babysitter, named Maria, who was 38 years old. Someone asked the babysitter: "Would your babysitter steal anything?" she always shrugged her hand and looked without hesitation: "Wherever, she even got the money she gave me."
Some people laughed after listening to it, while others were silent for a few seconds, because they understood that this was not a casual statement, but ironclad evidence of 38 years of trust.
What does this mean in the age of "changing babysitter like changing clothes" today, 38 years?
It means that a child can grow up to be a middle-aged person, it means that a young woman can be pale, it also means that you want to find a person in this world, neither bloodline nor contract, but willing to give you the goldenest years of your life.
In 1987, Maria stepped into the door of Xiang's home for the first time.
She was 29 years old that year and came from a remote town in the southern Philippines. She had many brothers and sisters in her family, and her parents made a living by farming.
After graduating from high school, she worked as a restaurant waitress in Manila for a few years, with a monthly salary of less than 3,000 pesos, at a rate of several hundred yuan.
At that time, a large number of women in the Philippines chose to travel to Hong Kong, Taiwan, Singapore as a housekeeper, high income, high demand, and most importantly, they can send money home.
Mary said her idea at the time was simple – “I just wanted to find a job that would last a little while, and I don’t want to change it all the time.”
And Peter's mother-in-law, it was the most busy time in his life, that he had just begun to turn to China's war and cinema circles, and his career was beginning, but family affairs were gradually pressed on his shoulder.
She is not someone who does not pay attention to the quality of life, but she values a person's "moral foundation" more.
Maria was introduced through an intermediary, with an unskilled Cantonese and a clean resume.
Xiang Tai's salary is nearly 30% higher than the market price. Filipino maids who work as nannies in other families generally earn about 4,000 yuan a month, while Xiang Tai directly gives 7,000 yuan, including food and shelter, and the conditions are excellent.
But Xiang Tai said, "I don't give so much because she deserves me, but because I want her to know that if you work in my house, you won't suffer."
At first, the mother didn't relax the vigil, but Maria's three-month "results" made her completely let go of the vigil.
First thing, it's about change.
People come in and out of Xiang Tai's home all the year round, guests, drivers, friends, and sometimes hundreds of dollars of change or even thousands of dollars of red envelopes are placed on the living room table.
Maria never moved. Instead, she took a glass jar and marked it with "change". Every time she found the money, she put it in. At the end of the month, she handed it to Xiang Tai: "Madam, this month's change is 1860 yuan. I left it all here."
The second incident was an accidental "jewelry incident".
It was 1995. Xiang Tai had to catch a charity dinner, and she changed her clothes in a hurry. She threw a few pieces of jewelry on the bathroom counter, and she didn't remember it until the next morning.
When she rushed into the bathroom, her heart felt cold. The things were missing, but just as she was about to get angry, Maria sent a sealed bag: "Madam, you left this behind yesterday. I put it in the bag and locked it in the drawer. I was afraid if I dropped it."
At that moment, there was a voice in his heart: “This man, you can believe.”
Since then, she has stopped hiding anything, and even told Maria the password of the safe. Sometimes, when she goes abroad for ten days, she leaves Maria with all the family affairs.
This is not a blind belief, it is a "test of trust" accumulated by a small thing.
Maria is not the kind of person who "only works but doesn't talk". She will buy food and compare prices, and will go to three vegetable markets for the difference of a few cents.
Xiang Tai once saw her hesitate for ten minutes at the street corner just to buy a herring that cost two yuan less. She did not save money for herself, but never regarded other people's money as "what should be spent."
“She’s taking my home as her own home,” she said.
That’s why he’s never deceived Mary.
The year Maria got married, Mrs. Xiang personally picked out a wedding dress for her, gave her two gold bracelets, and also wrapped a big red envelope. Mrs. Xiang arranged the wedding venue and reserved her position when she took leave to return to China to get married, and her salary was paid accordingly.
Mary's children perform well, give her a scholarship every year, and also help her apply for a Hong Kong study visa.
This affectionate relationship is seen in the eyes of relatives and friends who stay at home for a long time.
Someone joked, “Mary is not just your babysitter, but more like your housekeeper, your loved one, and even your doorkeeper.”
In 38 years, Maria turned from a young girl to a grandmother with grandchildren, but she is still helping home, although too early to let her "retire", but she insisted: "As long as I can still move, I will do."
Outsiders would feel exaggerated when they heard this, but Xiang Tai knew that she meant it.
During these 38 years, from a entrepreneurial woman to a "woman-in-a-kind" in the film circle, from a boss behind the scenes to a "gentleman" in everyone's mouth, the whole family has experienced countless storms, Maria has always been around, never gone far.
This relationship is not without question.
One time, a friend asked him, “Do you really not fear she steals your stuff?” he said, “She got the money and gave it to me, steal?
This was not a refutation, but the most true judgment in her heart.
Not every employment relationship becomes affinity, nor is every nurse worthy of trust.
But to太 said: "Many people look for a babysitter, the first reaction is to be careful, I never care about the protection, I look at people, look at her attitude when doing things."
Thirty-eight years later, the Mother of God was still sending gifts personally on Mary's birthday every year, and Mary's child was also called "godmother" to the Mother of God, writing greetings every holiday.
This is not "Touch China", nor is it "Legend of the Servant", it is two women, in the long time, in their respective ways, to prove a simple reason: the heart will not be neglected, and trust is not a weakness.
If you take care of me, I will rely on my destiny, which may be called “true heart change.”
Source: "The best girlfriend to say to yourself is Fiji" Fiji Morning News
Some people laughed after listening to it, while others were silent for a few seconds, because they understood that this was not a casual statement, but ironclad evidence of 38 years of trust.
What does this mean in the age of "changing babysitter like changing clothes" today, 38 years?
It means that a child can grow up to be a middle-aged person, it means that a young woman can be pale, it also means that you want to find a person in this world, neither bloodline nor contract, but willing to give you the goldenest years of your life.
In 1987, Maria stepped into the door of Xiang's home for the first time.
She was 29 years old that year and came from a remote town in the southern Philippines. She had many brothers and sisters in her family, and her parents made a living by farming.
After graduating from high school, she worked as a restaurant waitress in Manila for a few years, with a monthly salary of less than 3,000 pesos, at a rate of several hundred yuan.
At that time, a large number of women in the Philippines chose to travel to Hong Kong, Taiwan, Singapore as a housekeeper, high income, high demand, and most importantly, they can send money home.
Mary said her idea at the time was simple – “I just wanted to find a job that would last a little while, and I don’t want to change it all the time.”
And Peter's mother-in-law, it was the most busy time in his life, that he had just begun to turn to China's war and cinema circles, and his career was beginning, but family affairs were gradually pressed on his shoulder.
She is not someone who does not pay attention to the quality of life, but she values a person's "moral foundation" more.
Maria was introduced through an intermediary, with an unskilled Cantonese and a clean resume.
Xiang Tai's salary is nearly 30% higher than the market price. Filipino maids who work as nannies in other families generally earn about 4,000 yuan a month, while Xiang Tai directly gives 7,000 yuan, including food and shelter, and the conditions are excellent.
But Xiang Tai said, "I don't give so much because she deserves me, but because I want her to know that if you work in my house, you won't suffer."
At first, the mother didn't relax the vigil, but Maria's three-month "results" made her completely let go of the vigil.
First thing, it's about change.
People come in and out of Xiang Tai's home all the year round, guests, drivers, friends, and sometimes hundreds of dollars of change or even thousands of dollars of red envelopes are placed on the living room table.
Maria never moved. Instead, she took a glass jar and marked it with "change". Every time she found the money, she put it in. At the end of the month, she handed it to Xiang Tai: "Madam, this month's change is 1860 yuan. I left it all here."
The second incident was an accidental "jewelry incident".
It was 1995. Xiang Tai had to catch a charity dinner, and she changed her clothes in a hurry. She threw a few pieces of jewelry on the bathroom counter, and she didn't remember it until the next morning.
When she rushed into the bathroom, her heart felt cold. The things were missing, but just as she was about to get angry, Maria sent a sealed bag: "Madam, you left this behind yesterday. I put it in the bag and locked it in the drawer. I was afraid if I dropped it."
At that moment, there was a voice in his heart: “This man, you can believe.”
Since then, she has stopped hiding anything, and even told Maria the password of the safe. Sometimes, when she goes abroad for ten days, she leaves Maria with all the family affairs.
This is not a blind belief, it is a "test of trust" accumulated by a small thing.
Maria is not the kind of person who "only works but doesn't talk". She will buy food and compare prices, and will go to three vegetable markets for the difference of a few cents.
Xiang Tai once saw her hesitate for ten minutes at the street corner just to buy a herring that cost two yuan less. She did not save money for herself, but never regarded other people's money as "what should be spent."
“She’s taking my home as her own home,” she said.
That’s why he’s never deceived Mary.
The year Maria got married, Mrs. Xiang personally picked out a wedding dress for her, gave her two gold bracelets, and also wrapped a big red envelope. Mrs. Xiang arranged the wedding venue and reserved her position when she took leave to return to China to get married, and her salary was paid accordingly.
Mary's children perform well, give her a scholarship every year, and also help her apply for a Hong Kong study visa.
This affectionate relationship is seen in the eyes of relatives and friends who stay at home for a long time.
Someone joked, “Mary is not just your babysitter, but more like your housekeeper, your loved one, and even your doorkeeper.”
In 38 years, Maria turned from a young girl to a grandmother with grandchildren, but she is still helping home, although too early to let her "retire", but she insisted: "As long as I can still move, I will do."
Outsiders would feel exaggerated when they heard this, but Xiang Tai knew that she meant it.
During these 38 years, from a entrepreneurial woman to a "woman-in-a-kind" in the film circle, from a boss behind the scenes to a "gentleman" in everyone's mouth, the whole family has experienced countless storms, Maria has always been around, never gone far.
This relationship is not without question.
One time, a friend asked him, “Do you really not fear she steals your stuff?” he said, “She got the money and gave it to me, steal?
This was not a refutation, but the most true judgment in her heart.
Not every employment relationship becomes affinity, nor is every nurse worthy of trust.
But to太 said: "Many people look for a babysitter, the first reaction is to be careful, I never care about the protection, I look at people, look at her attitude when doing things."
Thirty-eight years later, the Mother of God was still sending gifts personally on Mary's birthday every year, and Mary's child was also called "godmother" to the Mother of God, writing greetings every holiday.
This is not "Touch China", nor is it "Legend of the Servant", it is two women, in the long time, in their respective ways, to prove a simple reason: the heart will not be neglected, and trust is not a weakness.
If you take care of me, I will rely on my destiny, which may be called “true heart change.”
Source: "The best girlfriend to say to yourself is Fiji" Fiji Morning News