On October 6, a tragedy happened in Singapore, a three-year-old from the Northeast, immigrated to Singapore for years and lived in a group house.The parents were both high-profile, the daughter attended a prestigious school in Singapore, was a student, had a Cambridge doctorate, but later mentally disturbed, life could not take care of itself.
Source: The Daily Network
When the family moved to Singapore, they were filled with expectations for the future.
Parents are high knowledge, value education, the daughter from childhood showed learning talent, reading hardly let them get over the heart.In Singapore's famous school, her achievements have been ranked top, teachers and classmates boast "this child will definitely have a big interest."
Later, she successfully entered the computer department of the National University of Singapore, undergraduate and master's degree, and went to the University of Cambridge in the UK for doctoral studies, and in 2008 when she received her doctorate, her parents also organized a small party to share this pride with family friends.
At that time, she was the “child of other people” in her friendship, the pride of her parents, and the example of “changing destiny by knowledge” in the immigrant group.
Parents later recalled that during the reading of the book, the daughter often stayed up to the paper, did the experiment, the pressure was great to the entire dormitory can not sleep, sometimes will still get angry. but at the time everyone felt that "high education has to deal with", did not care much, only to persuade her "to persevere".
Unexpectedly, this persistence failed to bring good results. After graduating from Ph.D., my daughter's mental state is getting worse and worse. At first, I just didn't like to talk, but then I slowly became abnormal-I would be in a daze at the wall at home, and when I went out, I would suddenly stop and clap my hands on the side of the road.
Neighbors encountered her in the elevator and saw her singing to the air, with a rigid expression, empty eyes, and the former self-confident master judged two people.
But the treatment effect is not ideal. My daughter's condition is sometimes good and bad. Finally, even basic life chores such as dressing and cooking need parents to take care of them.
In 2017, the mother died of illness, and the burden of the home was all on the father.The 70-year-old, not only to take care of the mental disorder daughter, but also to handle the small things of the house, physically and mentally unable to withstand.
Neighbors said that they were rarely seen going out during that time. Occasionally, they saw their father going to the supermarket. They would rush home after shopping in a hurry. Their backs were much hunched than before, and their eyes were full of fatigue. Sometimes a neighbor wanted to talk to him, but he would just nod and keep walking, as if he was avoiding something.
Starting in September this year, the lady who lived on their lower floor found the wrong thing. on their own ceiling began to infiltrate the viscous red fluid, the house also filled with a stinking smell of nose, smells of dizziness.
She thought it was a water pipe leak and went to the property management to inspect it several times, but found no problem. Later, the smell became stronger and stronger, and strange marks would be left on the place where it was wiped. Ms. Zeng couldn't stand it anymore, so she asked her son to contact the property management company to pry open the upstairs door to see the situation.
On the afternoon of October 6, the property workers, together with Mr. Yue, finally opened the door that had long been closed.
The door was just opened, the smell of corrosion came to the face, the sight in front of the eyes made everyone stuck in the place: the 47-year-old daughter crumbled in the doorway, wearing an old home suit, has long been without breath.
In the bedroom, my father in his 70s is lying on the bed. His body has been severely decayed because he has been left unattended for a long time, and his bones are clearly visible.
On the table still laid the unfinished bubble, long ago deformed black, the things in the room like turned over, through a breath of despair.
After forensic investigation, it was concluded that the father passed away first. About a month later, the daughter, who could not take care of herself, starved to death because no one took care of her.
When this result was posted on the Internet, netizens couldn't help but sigh: "It's obviously a Gao Zhi family, how did it end up in this state?" "For such a powerful doctor, would it be different if he could get help earlier?"
Here is a key question to popularize science: Why did the Kochi family fall into such a dilemma? Many people think that "Gaozhi = can solve problems", but in fact, Gaozhi groups may also be helpless when it comes to mental health and life care.
On the one hand, they may be reluctant to disclose their family difficulties to outsiders because of their "good face" and miss the opportunity to seek help; on the other hand, the treatment of mental illness requires long-term companionship and professional support, which is difficult to deal with by their families alone.
Especially after the mother's death, the father takes care of his sick daughter alone, lacking experience and outside help, so it is easy to be overwhelmed by pressure.
More importantly, we tend to pay too much attention to the achievements of the “scientists” while ignoring their mental endurance and life capabilities. Like this Cambridge Ph.D., who has long grown up in a high-pressure academic environment, lacking life skills training, and once mental problems arise, it is easy to fall into a “unable to handle” situation.
As high-level teachers, parents may be better at academic guidance, but they may not know how to deal with their children's mental crisis. In the end, they can only watch as the situation deteriorates.
This immigrant family from Northeast China wanted to pursue a better life in Singapore, but bid farewell to the world in this way. Their tragedy is like a mirror, reflecting the vulnerability under the aura of high knowledge, and also reminds us that no matter how high or low they are, seeking help in time when encountering difficulties and paying more attention to the psychological state of the people around them is the key to avoiding tragedy.
Finally, I would like to ask everyone, you think immigrant families are in trouble abroad, how to seek help? what can we do for the mental health of the High Knowledge Group?
Source: The Daily Network
When the family moved to Singapore, they were filled with expectations for the future.
Parents are high knowledge, value education, the daughter from childhood showed learning talent, reading hardly let them get over the heart.In Singapore's famous school, her achievements have been ranked top, teachers and classmates boast "this child will definitely have a big interest."
Later, she successfully entered the computer department of the National University of Singapore, undergraduate and master's degree, and went to the University of Cambridge in the UK for doctoral studies, and in 2008 when she received her doctorate, her parents also organized a small party to share this pride with family friends.
At that time, she was the “child of other people” in her friendship, the pride of her parents, and the example of “changing destiny by knowledge” in the immigrant group.
Parents later recalled that during the reading of the book, the daughter often stayed up to the paper, did the experiment, the pressure was great to the entire dormitory can not sleep, sometimes will still get angry. but at the time everyone felt that "high education has to deal with", did not care much, only to persuade her "to persevere".
Unexpectedly, this persistence failed to bring good results. After graduating from Ph.D., my daughter's mental state is getting worse and worse. At first, I just didn't like to talk, but then I slowly became abnormal-I would be in a daze at the wall at home, and when I went out, I would suddenly stop and clap my hands on the side of the road.
Neighbors encountered her in the elevator and saw her singing to the air, with a rigid expression, empty eyes, and the former self-confident master judged two people.
But the treatment effect is not ideal. My daughter's condition is sometimes good and bad. Finally, even basic life chores such as dressing and cooking need parents to take care of them.
In 2017, the mother died of illness, and the burden of the home was all on the father.The 70-year-old, not only to take care of the mental disorder daughter, but also to handle the small things of the house, physically and mentally unable to withstand.
Neighbors said that they were rarely seen going out during that time. Occasionally, they saw their father going to the supermarket. They would rush home after shopping in a hurry. Their backs were much hunched than before, and their eyes were full of fatigue. Sometimes a neighbor wanted to talk to him, but he would just nod and keep walking, as if he was avoiding something.
Starting in September this year, the lady who lived on their lower floor found the wrong thing. on their own ceiling began to infiltrate the viscous red fluid, the house also filled with a stinking smell of nose, smells of dizziness.
She thought it was a water pipe leak and went to the property management to inspect it several times, but found no problem. Later, the smell became stronger and stronger, and strange marks would be left on the place where it was wiped. Ms. Zeng couldn't stand it anymore, so she asked her son to contact the property management company to pry open the upstairs door to see the situation.
On the afternoon of October 6, the property workers, together with Mr. Yue, finally opened the door that had long been closed.
The door was just opened, the smell of corrosion came to the face, the sight in front of the eyes made everyone stuck in the place: the 47-year-old daughter crumbled in the doorway, wearing an old home suit, has long been without breath.
In the bedroom, my father in his 70s is lying on the bed. His body has been severely decayed because he has been left unattended for a long time, and his bones are clearly visible.
On the table still laid the unfinished bubble, long ago deformed black, the things in the room like turned over, through a breath of despair.
After forensic investigation, it was concluded that the father passed away first. About a month later, the daughter, who could not take care of herself, starved to death because no one took care of her.
When this result was posted on the Internet, netizens couldn't help but sigh: "It's obviously a Gao Zhi family, how did it end up in this state?" "For such a powerful doctor, would it be different if he could get help earlier?"
Here is a key question to popularize science: Why did the Kochi family fall into such a dilemma? Many people think that "Gaozhi = can solve problems", but in fact, Gaozhi groups may also be helpless when it comes to mental health and life care.
On the one hand, they may be reluctant to disclose their family difficulties to outsiders because of their "good face" and miss the opportunity to seek help; on the other hand, the treatment of mental illness requires long-term companionship and professional support, which is difficult to deal with by their families alone.
Especially after the mother's death, the father takes care of his sick daughter alone, lacking experience and outside help, so it is easy to be overwhelmed by pressure.
More importantly, we tend to pay too much attention to the achievements of the “scientists” while ignoring their mental endurance and life capabilities. Like this Cambridge Ph.D., who has long grown up in a high-pressure academic environment, lacking life skills training, and once mental problems arise, it is easy to fall into a “unable to handle” situation.
As high-level teachers, parents may be better at academic guidance, but they may not know how to deal with their children's mental crisis. In the end, they can only watch as the situation deteriorates.
This immigrant family from Northeast China wanted to pursue a better life in Singapore, but bid farewell to the world in this way. Their tragedy is like a mirror, reflecting the vulnerability under the aura of high knowledge, and also reminds us that no matter how high or low they are, seeking help in time when encountering difficulties and paying more attention to the psychological state of the people around them is the key to avoiding tragedy.
Finally, I would like to ask everyone, you think immigrant families are in trouble abroad, how to seek help? what can we do for the mental health of the High Knowledge Group?